Just be sure to use extra lube.ġ.Try double penetration. Since your sex organs have tons of nerves, this kind of double sensation can be surprisingly enjoyable for you, says Garrison. If you’re comfortable, try the experience of having two types of penetration at the same time. At the same time, show the other guy with your fingers how you like to be touched, so he knows the right motion and speed in which to move his tongue. While sitting upright, have one of the guys lightly kiss your neck, making his way down your chest to your nipple. Part of the fantasy for many women is experiencing multiple sensations that one person can’t provide, says Garrison. Then, take one shaft in each hand and alternate your mouth between the two, says O’Reilly.Ģ. With lots of lube start stroking your third party’s member until he’s fully erect while simultaneously going down on your partner. If.You’re Really Excited to Jump in but Not Quite Sure What to Doġ. So take control of the situation by directing them. “People respond better to a direct request than a general one like ‘Who wants to go down on me? ’” Garrison says. Be descriptive in what you want the two guys to do to you.
He can tell him where and when to kiss and what technique you like.Ģ. Then let them fight to get their lips and tongues between your legs, says O’Reilly.Īnother option: Let your guy direct the third party around your body while you’re still blindfolded. Tell them to wait to give you oraluntil you give them the go ahead. Then have them work their way back up to your breasts as slowly as possible. While blindfolded, tell the guys to work their way down slowly, kissing, caressing, breathing, licking, and stroking on either side of your body from your neck to your hip bones. If.You're Intrigued but Pretty Nervous About the Whole Thingġ.
Here's a breakdown of how to make this an experience to remember, no matter what your comfort level. Start off by taking turns making out with both men, says Garrison. That's because they require you to be naked (or almost naked), they're steamy, and they're (literally) hot. “If you have access to a hot tub, jacuzzi or even a large shower-use it! All of these make the perfect breeding ground for relaxation and eroticism,” says O’Reilly. So focus on having pleasure-not just orgasms." “All sex can be pleasurable, but it can’t always be orgasmic, especially in new situations," says Garrison. Make sure you voice your concerns as they come up, he says. And remember, once you get started, you can totally change your mind.
When you’ve found your third wheel, get his full consent to explore the activities you and your partner agreed to, says Garrison. That will keep jealousy and awkwardness from interfering with your fantasy IRL. You should also talk about whether or not it’s fine to mess around with the third party without your partner getting involved, says Garrison. For example, is kissing okay? What about oral or penetration? about what you're comfortable with and what you're not, says Eric Marlowe Garrison, clinical and forensic sexologist and author of Mastering Multiple Position Sex. It’s important to clarify your desires as well as your no-gos with your partner before your guest is over and the clothes are off. Here’s everything you need to know to help get the party started. “The key is coming up with a well-devised plan of dos and don’ts to make sure you’re satisfying your fantasies while maintaining and respecting your boundaries.” If it's your first time adding another man into the equation, “it’s completely normal to feel intimidated or awkward in the very beginning," says Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., author of The New Sex Bible. A recent study from the University of Montreal found that 31 percent of women have fantasized about having sex with two men. You’re far from alone in your desire to ménage a trois. So you and your guy have decided to crank up the dial on your sex life by inviting another dude into your bedroom (or wherever).